I can't see how bending the lens would be a good idea. I'm no expert, but I reckon you've been given dodgy advice there. Maybe as has been proved.
Anyway as to the lens staying in, I'm a lens wearer or about 4 months experience now (quite an old hand I think), I find I'm surprised how well they stay in. I have only had the damn thing(s) pop out on me once.
A slightly indelicate moment as I was standing infront of a loo at the time (ahem



I managed to find it (thank God I didn't have to call for help

So that's been my only panic really in four months.
I know how you feel though. It's daunting in the early days, but you'll soon get into your own daft lens routine, and then it becomes quite easy.
Take your time and don't try to rush. I'd also advise giving yourself little lens holidays. I can manage OKish so I leave them out at weekends and use glasses when I need them. For me it helps give me and my eyes a rest.
Good luck!